Thirty weeks of small, awkward things

Most people finish the test, recognise themselves in the result, and carry on exactly as before. Wanting to change has very little to do with it. Seeing your pattern and interrupting it are separate skills, and the second one arrives through training.

These are for the second one.

Thirty exercises, one a week for thirty weeks, arriving by email. Five for each of the six capacities the book argues we are quietly handing over: empathy, creativity, attention, integrity, common sense, and whatever we leave behind for the people watching us.

Each one names a single thing to do that week, then asks one question about what happened. The doing trains the behaviour. The question is what makes it stick.

Here is the first, in full.

Two seconds before you speak

Do In every conversation today, leave two full seconds of silence before you answer. Count them. Watch what the other person does with the gap.

Ask Where did the pause change what you were about to say?

That is the shape of all thirty.

They come from four workshops I have run for years with people who had no time for theory, and from the thinkers the book leans on. Nothing here was invented at a desk.

Free for one month, while I get this right

The thirty exercises are new, and I would rather hear what does not work from a handful of people now than find out from everyone later. For the moment they are free. In exchange, I ask for one thing: tell me what landed, what did not, and what you skipped. A short reply to any of the daily emails is enough.

Free for beta testers.. Thirty-nine euros for the thirty days once they open properly, twenty-nine for anyone who joined during the beta.